Tuesday, January 17, 2017

Because a New Baby Wasn't Enough...

So we just had to adopt a dog!

I guess we just like change in this house or maybe we just like to keep it real, either way we are doing something we swore we wouldn't do for a year or more and that is we are adopting a dog.
Luna chilling with her favorite cat, Joey. 

Some of you may know that our Christmas Eve we had to make the difficult decision to let our 12 year old corgi, Luna, go.  She had suffered a stroke the day before and most likely had a brain tumor.  To say she was suffering was putting it mildly.  We all took it hard, but it's a different kind of heartache when you watch your own child mourn the loss of a pet.

Scarlett was crushed.  

Three weeks after her passing she'd see a dog and say, "I miss Luna. I want Luna back!"  Even though we've explained it to her, she doesn't understand why we didn't bring her home with us.  She thinks that Luna is somewhere where she isn't being taken care of and that she cries for us.  We made her as much of a part of the process as we could and still be age appropriate.

Fast forward 3 weeks and the hole that Luna left was very real.  She was loyal to a fault and always by my side.  Sometimes I still think I hear her nails on the hardwoods or her tags jangling as she bounded up the stairs.  

Matt and I both found ourselves looking at adoptable dogs online.  Once we realized what we were each doing it was time to get serious about the loss we felt.  We knew that our home just wasn't the same without a dog.  It was time to start looking again.  Even though we will be bringing a newborn home in 5 or 6 months, we felt that now was the time to bring home a dog so s/he could get settled and acclimated before the baby arrives.

We found the perfect cuddle bug for us at a local shelter.  

She is a 2 year old boxer mix!  We met with her on Saturday and fell right in love with the way she fell on our feet and smothered us with kisses.  The best part is she likes other dogs!  They're not positive she'll be OK around cats, but she's given them no reason to believe she'd hurt one.  Our boys are pretty dog savvy and we have a safe spot for them to run to if she becomes too much.

She comes home on Thursday and we can hardly wait!  

Wednesday, January 11, 2017

10 Weeks Pregnant and Impatient to Spill the Beans

Disclaimer: This is my second pregnancy.  With my first pregnancy my daughter was born preterm (36 weeks), breech and via C-section.  Due to my age, my medical history (hello, incompetent cervix!) and my daughter being delivered preterm I am being classified as high-risk.  Things could get a little crazy in here so proceed with caution.  

How far along: 10 Weeks!
Total weight gain: I'm guessing still around 10 pounds of bloat.
Maternity clothes: Yes, but only because of the length.
Stretch marks: No more than usual.
Sleep: Eh, it's not great. 
Best moment of this week: Getting as much rest as possible while on Thanksgiving break. 
Miss anything: My friends.  I feel like I've been avoiding them so I don't have to spill the beans. 

Movement: Just gas bubbles.  
Food cravings: Anything sweet and carby.  I really just want comfort foods. 
Anything making you queasy or sick: Chicken
Have you started to show yet: I definitey look bloated. 
Gender: Not sure yet.  
Labor signs: No!
Belly button in or out: Still in.
Wedding rings on or off: On
Happy or moody most of the time: Just plain tired all.the.time. 
Looking forward to: Sharing the good news with everyone at Christmas.  It is getting harder and harder to keep the secret lately especially with all the holiday parties and everyone wanting to pour me a drink. 

Monday, January 9, 2017

Why, as an over 35 high risk pregnancy momma, I am NOT Doing Genetic Testing

Hi, I'm Sabrina and I'm a 38 year old pregnant woman with an incompetent cervix and a penchant for having preterm babies.

I'll spare you the gory details of my medical history but I will say that my 4 year old daughter was born at 36 weeks via c-section when my water broke - at work no less!  Not sure if my "incompetent cervix" had anything to do with it. Luckily, she was born without any complications and very healthy. The baby nurse in the delivery room surmised that my OB really messed up my due date.

Flash forward 4 years and I'm pregnant with my second facing another c-section  (my choice) and the fact that I'm of "advanced maternal age" (over 35)  now.

We never did genetic testing with my daughter and my doctor didn't push it. This time around with my new OB'S office, genetic testing was not only encouraged but pretty much expected.

After some research, a few frustrating calls to our insurance company followed up with more calls to our OB'S office we decided it wasn't for us.


No Family History of Genetic Disorders

My husband, Matt, comes from a large family.  His Dad is one of 8 and his mom is one of 5 so there are a bazillion cousins, aunts and uncles.  He also has 3 brothers and a sister. My immediate family pales in comparison.  I'm an only child and my parents are only children.  I have no aunts, no uncles and no first cousins.  Now, if you take a step back in history the story on my side is much different with my grandparents averaging around 10 brothers and sisters each.  While there is lots of heart disease and cancer on both sides of both of our family trees, there are no genetic disorders.  I know that my age is a major factor, but the argument can be made that my great-great grandmother was having children around my age considering she was still having children when her own DAUGHTER (my great-grandmother) started having children. 

False Positives Happen

And with my newly discovered anxiety that is a bad mix.  Yes, some of these tests are 95% accurate, but I've still heard and read too many stories of false positives or mix-ups happening.  Ugh, ugh.  No thanks!

It's Too Damn Expensive

And there is no guarantee that insurance will pay for it.  If you've ever called your insurance company than you now it is an exercise in futility.  I spent 30 minutes on the phone with mine trying to find out if genetic testing was covered.  I had the codes and specific test names - to say I was prepared was an understatement.  The final answer from the woman on the other line. "I don't know.  I don't understand what I am reading."  It was a colossal waste of time.  I was able to forward some information from her to my doctor's office and even the account manager there wasn't sure what she was reading.  She felt she could make a good case to convince them to pay for it, but there was no guarantee they would.  We already have a high deductible so I didn't want to be out an extra $3,000-$10,000 depending on what the lab charged and what our portion was to pay.    Nope.  Nope.  Nope. 

There they are.  All of the reasons why we called and said, "Thanks, but no thanks" to genetic testing.  And you know what?  As excited as I was about finding out the sex of our baby 2 months earlier than last time, a huge weight was lifted from my shoulders when I called to cancel that appointment.  

I was definitely getting a big of pressure from my OB's office to get it done because of my risk factors.  No one likes being pressured, but I feel I did the right thing by researching my options and coming to my own conclusions.

I'm writing this because in my research, I found that there are a lot of articles praising genetic testing and not many about women who turn it down and everything turns out alright.  While I have nothing against it, I just feel it is not for us.  

I want to know, did you decide to have the genetic testing done?  Why or why not?  I want to hear your experiences too.  

*Please note that I am not a medical professional and this article should not replace a medical professionals advice.  These views are of my own opinions.  

Monday, January 2, 2017

8 Weeks Pregnant and I Look Like I've Popped!

Disclaimer: This is my second pregnancy.  With my first pregnancy my daughter was born preterm, breech and via C-section.  Due to my age, my medical history (hello, incompetent cervix!) and my daughter being delivered preterm I am being classified as high-risk.  Things could get a little crazy in here so proceed with caution.  

How far along: 8 weeks although at my 8 week ultrasound baby was already measuring 2 days ahead so I'm closer to 9 weeks now.  
Total weight gain: 10 pounds of bloat!
Maternity clothes:  Some shirts, but I wear them mostly because of the length.  I can't button my pants that well so I need the length to hide them.  
Stretch marks: Just what was there before.  
Sleep: If I didn't need to pee after 6 hours then I'd be sleeping all of the time!
Best moment of this week:  Getting to see baby on the ultrasound.  There really is a baby in there! 
Miss anything: I miss not having terrible stomach pains.  
Movement: Nope!
Food cravings: Bagels and cream cheese.
Anything making you queasy or sick:  Chicken.  This happened the last time.  Even my daughter's chicken nuggets make me want to barf.
Have you started to show yet: I look like I've popped even though I know it is mostly just bloat.
Gender:  Still thinking boy just because this one isn't trying to kill me like his sister.   
Labor signs: Dear lord, no!
Belly button in or out: Still in, but it never popped out the last time.  
Wedding rings on or off: Still on, but my fingers are already starting to bloat out.  
Happy or moody most of the time: Just tired and tired of having a belly ache. 
Looking forward to: Telling our family over Christmas.

Since we did not spill the beans on this pregnancy to our family until I was 14 weeks pregnant, there will be a fair amount of backtracking until I can get caught up.  Hang in there!